We are a product of our elders’ teachings; the instructions that were passed down generation after generation has shaped the modern human being. Without those instructions, we would not have survived for life is hard. In this post, we are going to look at the importance of mentorship, and how you can find your mentor in easy steps.
Why do I need to find a mentor
A wise person always learns from others’ mistakes. You indeed need to learn through your own experiences; however, you need to have a basic understanding of what you’re doing. Someone who has traveled the same road you are looking to take may know a thing or two about the bumps on the way.
Your struggles are unique and therefore require a specific blueprint for resolve. You can’t do it by yourself; you need to learn how to find your mentor and follow what’s been taught to avoid grave pitfalls.
Think about this: from the very beginning, you have been learning and improving through your parents’ and teachers’ guidance. Who taught you how to ride your bike? Who helped you through math problems? Someone was always there.
You have needed guidance and will require it throughout your life. The problem is your parents or teachers alone cannot help you through everything as you get older and life becomes complex. You need someone who has a profound understanding of your unique situation.
Who is a mentor
A mentor is an experienced individual in a specific field, who has amassed enough wisdom over the years to guide you through your unique situation.
How to find your mentor in 3 simple steps
- Discover yourself first
You could have one of the most expensive cars in the world and not know what to do if you aren’t sure where you are headed.
What are you looking for? If you are not sure, then be sure first. If you are looking to have your own business, you need to find people who have had similar journeys. They will prove to be the right mentors for your endeavour. Similarly, if you are looking to become a writer, look for people who have become writers. Be absolutely certain about what you want to do before you find your mentor.
Read our detailed guide about self-discovery before you move forward: A road to self-discovery.
- Look for the right mentors
Once you know what you want, start looking for people within that field. Now, here’s the tricky thing: you can find several people and only a few will be worthy of your time. Here again, be specific.
For example, what kind of business are you trying to run? If you want to run a restaurant, do not look for people who have had successful fashion businesses. Similarly, if you are looking to write sci-fi, it’s important that you follow notable authors in sci-fi.
- Be persistent
Once you have found yourself and your mentor, you arrive at the hardest part of the journey. You will notice that your mentor/mentors did not arrive at their destinations overnight.
Every morning, read one thing about your mentor that will motivate you for the rest of the day.
For example, we read this Stephen King quote today before we started: The scariest moment is always just before you start. After that, things only get better.
Read anything about your mentor. It could be an article about their journey, struggles, etc, or a chapter from a book they wrote. This will keep you motivated on a day-to-day basis.
The bottom line
So how to find a mentor in life without a hassle? Find yourself first, look for the right mentors, and be persistent in your learning. The world is full of inspirational people, but you don’t need to follow everybody. Find the ones who have had experiences you can learn from for your unique situation.